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All we need to learn and know about parenting are possible with patience.
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Parenting techniques can only yield desired results with a lot of patience.
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Patience fosters hope. It slows you down from reacting.
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It shows your children how to trust you.
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Patience teaches self-control, it creates confidence, it promotes decisiveness, and it rewards parents with a thoughtful outlook on life.
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Patience helps you to maintain emotional stability even in times of crisis.
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When you feel the urge to lose your patience and shout, bite it, hold it, breathe it in and exhale it out. It only takes few seconds quicker if you force in a smile.
- To regain control of your patience, breath in 1-6, breathe out 1-4; or count to ten and relax. You might surprise yourself.
- Teach this technique to your child. But remember, children mostly learn by example rather than instruction.
- Tell your child how you feel. Name the emotions.
- Use the ’I’ statement more instead of the ‘you’ statement. I’m not happy you did that….
- Try and connect behaviour. ‘You remember what happened yesterday? This is what happens when you stay up late’ etc.
- Always speak in a low tone of voice. I’m sure your child would be surprised by the ‘new you’.
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Getting used to your ‘new you’ will take time, so do not be too hard on yourself. Just keep at it.
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Preparation is crucial, and planning ahead gives you control. Control of your behaviour and emotions.
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Get your child involved in the planning too. While getting your child to do one task, a good reminder of the next expectation does help. ‘once your programme finishes dear, remember to brush your teeth before calling me for a bedtime story’.
- If your child refuses to brush his/her teeth, it is not the end of the world. Just let them know where they stand.
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Give your child a clear choice and withdraw yourself. ‘you can choose to brush your teeth now or miss out on that sweet dessert. Can you remember what the dentist said?
- If that doesn’t work, wait till when it’s time to have your nice dessert the following day, ‘Sorry, Jordan, I’ am afraid I can’t give you some of this because it will damage your teeth, especially if you don’t brush them often. Wallah! You’re in control again.
- Follow this up with negotiations. ‘Are you saying we’re not going to have a big argument tonight when it’s time to brush your teeth? If that is the case, you can have half of your potion tonight, and I’ll keep the rest for you till tomorrow.
- Remember, your child is not an Angel.
- If your child always does as told, you will be bored, LOL.
- QUALITY TIME!!!!!!!!!!!! Do it. even for your own sanity
